One of my favourite quotes from the series Sex and the city is "The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them, and others you don't. But, in the end, they're the people you always come home to. Sometimes it's the family you're born into and sometimes it's the one you make for yourself."
Carrie is so right. Family is very important, but that doesn't mean that your relatives are your family. Of couse I have to send a birthday card to my father, but that doesn't mean that we're close. That doesn't mean that he is part of my real family. Family is indeed the one you make for yourself. Those people who are truly close to you, take care of you and you take care of them. Of course it's sad if your family is not the family you're born to but it's a good thing that you can find caring and wonderful people from elsewhere and greate a family of your own.